Article:
http://www.raptitude.com/2012/07/most-lives-are-lived-by-default/
Would be comment:
Just to be clear, I move, and I regularly get new friends even if I don’t, the ways I spend my time varies dramatically. I do not lack for human connection, I’ve never experienced anything that resembles a lack of personal freedom (due to money or family situations), and while from time to time I’m struck by a lack of confidence or self-esteem (have you looked at the accomplishments of the very pretty and famous lately?) or lack of self-control (as your article suggests everyone constantly tells me I should have everything now and occasionally I buy into it) they are not defining features in my life.
Your article sets up a victim mentality where the whole issue of what’s missing is externally located, unhappy? You probably don’t like the view, unfulfilled? It’s your spouses fault. Bored? You need better friends and a new job. How uncreative. Let’s chuck a life that we aren’t putting energy into and go start another because beginnings are exciting and how easy is it to find your new love interesting and wonderful. But let’s face it when they want more it’s going to be much the same, they’ll want stability, your other apparent source of all discontent. Really? You think that the excitement offered by the positivity of being chucked by your new love as they decide it’s time to swap their identify from spouse with an excellent job to 38year old divorcee surfer with a bachelor pad and alimony and a kid who visits every second holidays, because they were self absorbed.
“I can’t think of a way to get more out of life FOR ME where I am right now.” If you can’t do it where you are you aren’t going to find that answer buy getting a new wardrobe or hobby unless you really do think money can buy happiness. My guess is once you adjust to your “new” self you’ll get bored again and oh dear it’ll be the fault of your new ‘love’ (because your totally deep enough to distinguish the real thing that burns after infatuation fades right…) or your boss who just doesn’t make your work rewarding. My problem is that I know of people who have actual real problems, with health, with getting by day to day and that sometimes they do have this giant gap in their lives. It cannot be fixed the way you’ve suggested. You would do better to look to aid others although it does much better it cannot cure that gap either. At the very least in thinking about it you might wind up writing something less destructive.
The best way for me to interpret this is to imagine it as if you are all being sarcastic. That the article is written in jest and every response in agreement are actually just those playing along with the prank. At which point I would congratulate you all and apologize for not being in the bracket that understood it as such and go read the rest of your writings.
